Developing Your “Why” as a Dad
1. People follow leaders who know their “Why”
Being a great parent is similar to being a great leader. Adults and children alike follow a leader who believes in what they are doing, not someone with a list of what to do.
To learn more, check out one of the most watched TED Talks of all time, Simon Sinek’s “How Great Leaders Inspire Action.”
2. Your “Why” as a parent is clearly shown in God’s Word
- God has made men and women in his image, and He gives us an incredible role to play while we are on this earth. In Genesis 1:26–28, He calls us to be fruitful and multiply, and He calls us to be co-creators as He calls us to put all of the earth under his dominion.
- 26 Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.”
27So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.
28And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”
- Psalm 127 reminds us that children are a gift (v3) and a blessing (v5) from the Lord. It is our responsibility to prepare them like arrows (v4) to be ready to follow the same call we have as parents. That the way to do this right is to follow God law and commands (v1), to do things his way.
- 1 Unless the LORD builds the house, those who build it labor in vain. Unless the LORD watches over the city, the watchman stays awake in vain.
2 It is in vain that you rise up early and go late to rest, eating the bread of anxious toil; for he gives to his beloved sleep.
3 Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward.
4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth.
5 Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.
3. When we know our “Why,” we can establish foundational vision and values
We discussed several helpful quotes and verses that are worth inspiring our family values. Here is a great example from the Bible: “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth” (3 John 1:4). And here’s another from Stephen Covey: “The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.”
Here are some verses and quotes to help:
- “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.” - 3 John 1:4
- “…I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.” - John 10:10
- “give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” - 1 Thessalonians 5:18
- “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” - 1 Corinthians 10:31
- “And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.” - Colossians 3:17
- “For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain.” - Philippians 1:21
- “For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake and the gospel’s will save it.” - Mark 8:35
- “And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works" - Hebrews 10:24
- “19 Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age." - Matthew 28:19–20
- “The end of life is not to be happy, nor to achieve pleasure and avoid pain, but to do the will of God, come what may.” - Martin Luther King, Jr.
- “Begin with the end in mind.” - Stephen Covey
- “The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.” - Stephen Covey
- “1 At that time the disciples came to Jesus, saying, “Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” 2And calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them 3 and said, “Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. 4 Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. 5 Whoever receives one such child in my name receives me, 6but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.” - Matthew 18:1–6
Also, her are a few example of how some families have made their purpose statements and values into something the entire family can see and celebrate.
4. When we know our purpose as a parent, we can make life plans based on what we believe.
Here are some worksheets for the following:
- Purpose Values Vision Worksheet
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- Life Plan Vision Worksheet
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- Plan for Child Worksheet
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All based on Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People and Michael Hyatt’s and Daniel Harkavy’s Living Life Forward.
5. We can’t do this all on our own.
God gives us these responsibilities, and He gives us the help we need to raise our children. When we have put our full trust in Jesus, He covers all of our mistakes and sins in the grace of our Lord and Savior. And, thankfully, His mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:22–23).
Upcoming Strategic Dads University Events
Whether or not you were able to attend the first session, please join us for the rest of our sessions. Here is the schedule:
- Session 2: The Solution To The Biggest Problems Dads Face - Tuesday, February 26th • Register
- Session 3: The Actions of A Man, Husband, and Father - Tuesday, March 26th
- Session 4: Training World Changers - Wednesday, April 24th
The next 3 sessions will draw from these three outstanding books. While you don’t need to read them in order to come to the sessions, I highly recommend them: